It ought to be the desire of every child of God to be “a man” or to be “a lady”. We are in the midst of a culture turning point in our society when being “a man” or being “a lady”, with manners, is not as important as demanding your own rights and promoting your own feelings above the feelings of others. When having character is less promoted than being a character.
A Latin proverbs says, “Anger is a short madness.” When there is an absence of character there is an abundance of “HotHeads”; people who are filled with madness. Men and women who have no control over their own spirits; they are hasty in their judgments, actions, and words. They lack good and godly discretion and their REACTIONS are uneducated, uninformed, extreme, cruel, and harmful. Their words are sharp and deadly. Their actions are fierce and without mercy. As a flaming fire, when their madness begins to diminish their passions die down into gray ashes of remorse, but the uncontrolled flames have already left behind burned and charred ruins.
“A man” or “a lady” will utilize discretion to defer or to delay their angry. It is the nature of anger to be more fierce than the occasion demands; but when time is permitted to pass and patience has had her perfect work a man of discretion will be able to properly moderate his passions. The Holy Spirit is allowed to control their spirit. They are slow to speak until they know the entirety of the matter. They allow wisdom and prudence to govern their actions so their deeds and expressions are appropriate. Rules and principles govern which “battles” are fought and which “battles are passed over.”
The glory of “a man” or of “a lady” is not their “swift justice” and their fierce demeanor. Their glory is bowels of mercy, kindness, humbles of mind, meekness, longsuffering, forbearance, and forgiveness. This is handling the matter as Christ would handle the matter.